Permission to show yourself a little love

Self-care isn’t necessarily an elaborate ritual that you have to perform every day. Self-care, in its purest form, is giving your body what it needs when it needs it in order to perform at your very best. Knowing what your body needs involves staying tuned in to the subtle signals it gives you throughout the day. This means staying present and checking in with yourself often.

What is self-care?

You know how the flight attendant instructs you to secure your own oxygen mask before assisting others in case of an emergency? Self-care is kind of like that. It is taking care of yourself so you can perform better for everyone else. If you helped everyone else with their masks first, you would pass out and be unable to help as many people as you would if you helped yourself first. Taking the time for self-care is not selfish, it is essential to keep you performing at your very best.  Continue reading “Permission to show yourself a little love”

Self-care For Busy Parents

One of the most important things you can do for yourself is to commit to a morning routine. How you start your day directly influences how the rest of your day goes. Start with a nourishing routine and see how grounded you are for the rest of the day. Start your day by pushing your snooze button until the last minute and then running around frazzled all morning and see how that day pans out. Get my drift?

A few days ago I read a post on my mentor’s Facebook group feed from a lovely lady who was trying her very best to nail down an uplifting morning routine. Her obstacle was, as it is for many of us, an early waking child. She was unable to get into a routine because her child would wake at 5:30 am. Kids, God love them, have a sixth sense about these sort of things. All you want is five minutes alone to meditate or do a sun salutation and there they are demanding breakfast. What is the solution? Get up even earlier? Give the kid an iPad and tell him to be quiet for half an hour? Take a no prisoners approach and get the morning routine done no matter what, even in the face of a bawling kid?

Life happens, let’s face it. Many of the self-care practices we “should” do every day take a certain amount of alone time. When you’re a working parent you don’t get a lot of that, at least not on your schedule. This means you have to make adjustments to your schedule.

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A Study in Self-Care

Today finds me semi-incapacitated with a stomach virus. Sickness doesn’t happen to me very often because I am fastidious about taking care of myself. I don’t let my reserves get depleted, so I always have enough to defend myself against invaders. Well, usually. Even my iron defenses couldn’t withstand whatever freakish bug my daughter brought home from school. So here I sit, thinking about self-care and how to better implement it. This is what I came up with.

When You’re Sick, Be Sick

When you’re sick, be sick. Allow yourself the time to recover from whatever you have. I understand that you have a job or kids to take care of and it is very difficult to take time out. This is where a change of mindset will help you. It is not polite to go to work if you are under the weather, but more than that you will recover faster and be more productive if you give yourself the time you need to heal.

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How to Develop a Proclivity for Keeping Resolutions Using H.A.L.T.

Now that Christmas is over, we can settle down to reflect on the year that has past and make plans for the year to come. Call them resolutions or intentions, but making goals for the year is a way we can make improvements in our lives. In order to make effective resolutions for meaningful change, you need to see where you are now. What will you need to do to get from where you are to where you are going? For an excellent article about how to sit down and intentionally pour over your past year in order to get a clear perspective on where you are and where you want to go, read 9 Essential Questions Everyone Should Ask Themselves At The End of The Year.

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Four Simple Solutions to Overcome Stress and Anxiety

Why is the topic of stress so important? Well, who isn’t stressed these days? We are overscheduled, overworked, and overstimulated, we lack time in nature, we lack connection with people around us, and we are so used to being this way that we call this stressed-out state normal. According to the Whitehall II study (1), which followed the lifestyle and mortality of a large number of civil servants in the UK, stress is the number one predictor of total mortality. This study looked at mortality due to several causes. Tobacco use was the biggest predictor of death in those who died of cardiovascular disease, but the largest factor in total mortality was stress. What this means is, you could do everything else right – your diet and exercise can be spot on, you don’t smoke or consume alcohol or eat red meat – but between you and your friend who does all of the bad things and none of the good, you will still die first if you are stressed out all the time and she isn’t.

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