The Solution to a Bad Day: Unconditional Love For the Win

Last Thursday I was working on some of the regular content that I put out every week. I had gotten most of it done and scheduled to publish ahead of time since it was the last full week before school starts and I wanted to spend as much time as possible with my little girl. The exception was my newsletter which has to wait until Thursday morning to be finished since that is when my nutrition and physical health blog Nourish Me Wellness publishes. I always share both of my blogs in my weekly newsletter.

I had most of that done, too. I just needed to edit it and add the links for the Nourish Me Wellness Blog and push “send.” When I first logged on, muscle memory (or auto-pilot as we like to say) caused me to create a whole new document instead of clicking on the almost finished email. No biggie. I reversed my direction and got to editing the email that was nearly complete.

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Don’t Watch Bambi on Mother’s Day

Yesterday was Mother’s Day and a digital detox day for me. We did brunch at home, shopped for planter supplies, and planted a few flowers in the morning. In the afternoon we settled in to watch some movies and rest. In paging through our available kid-friendly movie selection, we ran across Bambi. I said, “Hey, we haven’t seen this one for awhile, want to watch it?” My little agreed, so we settled in.

It didn’t take long for her to ask, “Is this where he loses his mother?” A question that would be repeated several times throughout the movie.

What mother hasn’t contemplated what her child’s life would be like without her? Isn’t it this thought that keeps us from running off to a tropical island on days we’ve had enough? Kids make us show up. Especially little kids. They make us be present. Because what if I wasn’t there one day? How would that affect her? Continue reading “Don’t Watch Bambi on Mother’s Day”

Bikes and Tantrums

Who has freaked out on their kids lately? Be honest, there’s no judgment here. I did it just yesterday. It was the ugly, uncalled for, bad example of how to deal with frustration type of freaking out. That was me. Yes, the person who is always here talking to you about positivity and gratitude and being present. I talk about all of this stuff because I need to hear it myself. Tantrum was actually yesterday’s daily prompt, but it is extremely apropos for what I need to write about today. Here’s what happened…

My kid is five, almost six, and can’t ride a bike. This is completely my fault. It hasn’t been a priority. When we are outside playing, which is often, we are usually swimming, hiking, on the playground, climbing, or doing something in the dirt. Biking isn’t something I like to do much, so it isn’t something I have modeled for her or helped her learn. Still, it is a basic skill that everyone should learn. So we agonize over it every so often.

Since we’re so close to it being summer here, I thought I would bring the bike out for another test run. First off, her Hello Kitty bike is getting a little too small for her. I have raised the seat and the handlebars to near capacity, but it isn’t quite enough. Second, we live on somewhat of a hill. Our sidewalk slopes to a busy street, as does our very quiet, dead-end street. The sidewalk seemed too steep for her, so I brought her out into the street where she could ride around in a gentle circle. It’s safe because the street ends three feet past our driveway.

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Self-care For Busy Parents

One of the most important things you can do for yourself is to commit to a morning routine. How you start your day directly influences how the rest of your day goes. Start with a nourishing routine and see how grounded you are for the rest of the day. Start your day by pushing your snooze button until the last minute and then running around frazzled all morning and see how that day pans out. Get my drift?

A few days ago I read a post on my mentor’s Facebook group feed from a lovely lady who was trying her very best to nail down an uplifting morning routine. Her obstacle was, as it is for many of us, an early waking child. She was unable to get into a routine because her child would wake at 5:30 am. Kids, God love them, have a sixth sense about these sort of things. All you want is five minutes alone to meditate or do a sun salutation and there they are demanding breakfast. What is the solution? Get up even earlier? Give the kid an iPad and tell him to be quiet for half an hour? Take a no prisoners approach and get the morning routine done no matter what, even in the face of a bawling kid?

Life happens, let’s face it. Many of the self-care practices we “should” do every day take a certain amount of alone time. When you’re a working parent you don’t get a lot of that, at least not on your schedule. This means you have to make adjustments to your schedule.

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Modeling Healthy Habits

“Kids don’t remember what you try to teach them. They remember what you are.” -Jim Henson

It comes as no surprise to most parents that kids are little sponges. They pick up everything from language, mannerisms, and habits to beliefs, fears, and hang-ups all by watching the people they are around. The more they respect the person, the better they learn. The biggest impressions are often made unknowingly or unconsciously on the part of the parent. Possibly these habits, fears, or mannerisms exist in the parent without the parent even being aware of them. That is until the kid does something undesirable and the parent has to take a step back and wonder where this behavior came from. There is no better example of others being a reflection of us than our kids. Because we want the best for these little people and want them to thrive in an increasingly globalized and aware world, we want to teach them how to be good people. We want them to be outgoing and well-loved, deal with fear, disappointment, or adversity with grace, own their mistakes and learn, and make healthy choices even when we’re not there. Nagging them into submission is not going to work, though. In this case, we really do have to be the change we wish to see in the world. Everyday. Even when we haven’t had our coffee yet. Because those little people are always there. Watching. Learning. Continue reading “Modeling Healthy Habits”

Love Over Fear

Each and every decision we make throughout the day gives us an opportunity to choose love or fear. Take a minute to visualize each emotion. Imagine what it feels like to live with love. Bring that feeling in and let it live inside you for a moment. Breathe into it and notice how it feels. For me, this feels like snuggling into a big, puffy blanket. I imagine feeling comforted, insulated from negativity, soft, and willing to share the best version of myself. Now imagine what it feels like to live in fear. Let it permeate each cell and notice how it feels. I imagine a hard, sharp, immovable force, like a large sword, slicing through and shattering my peace. Suddenly fear is in control, and it is not comfortable. Which would you rather live with? We have the choice every minute of every day to live from a place of love or a place of fear. After visualizing both, which would you choose?

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Fill your cup

“Givers need to set limits because takers rarely do” – Rachel Wolchin

We live in a culture that values busy-ness. When you ask someone how they are doing, they say something like, “I’ve just been so busy,” and you say, “Oh, man! Me, too!” Then you chat for a few minutes about how busy you are and you promise to get together when you’re not so busy, neither one of you expecting that will happen. Then you go about your busy, unfulfilling lives thinking you are living to the best of your ability. When did busy become so normal? We pile up more and more onto our plates, never taking a break until something has to give. Usually, it’s us. Constantly being on the go is very stressful on our bodies. We require balance, and our bodies will seek out that balance regardless of what we have on our to-do list. It would behoove us to learn about setting boundaries with ourselves and others so we can live a healthy, balanced life. Continue reading “Fill your cup”

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