On introspection and choosing another path

In my other life, as a health coach helping people gain a healthier relationship with food while losing weight happily and healthfully, I have recently made a pretty major business decision. It is one of those shifts that is like jumping off of a cliff. It feels like there’s no going back. Like you’ve got to be all in–100% committed–or the scene will look like one from the coyote and roadrunner cartoon.

The thing is, I wasn’t getting anywhere with what I was doing. I was doing everything the marketing people told me to. I was authentic, passionate, and unique. I had an elevator speech. I regularly shared my story with soul-baring honesty. I walked my talk and am a product of the plan I was trying to sell. All I heard were crickets. Could it be that I wasn’t clear about what I was selling? Essentially I was selling myself on the internet. I mean, that’s pretty vague.

Authenticity is one of my core values, so my business plan reflects that. As a result, it is both rigid and fluid, and that might come off as wishy-washy. My compass is my internal barometer, which sometimes causes me to float in circles. I needed a solid plan, but first I had to figure out what was wrong with the other one. Continue reading “On introspection and choosing another path”

Do What Can’t be Done

When was the first time someone told you that you couldn’t do something? When you learned that you could put things in your mouth at six weeks old? What was your reaction? Well, you put the thing right back in your mouth. You didn’t have a sense that you couldn’t do something. What does that even mean?

Then we moved on to childhood when people are full of encouragement. We hear that we can do anything and that anything is possible. We get coached and positively reinforced to take our first steps or ride a bike. We hear “you can do it” quite often. No one accepts our excuses as to why we can’t do something. No one allows us to accept defeat. We honestly think we can do anything because we’ve never heard otherwise.

Except, by this time, we have heard that we shouldn’t put things in our mouths enough times that we sometimes comply. Continue reading “Do What Can’t be Done”

Chasing Happiness

We don’t grow when things are easy. We grow when we face challenges. – Unknown

What would it take for you to become wildly successful? Reach way down and find your most audacious dreams. Not the stuff you are supposed to want like money, cars, the big house. I mean your real dreams, the ones you maybe haven’t even mentioned to anyone because they seem too ambitious. Perhaps you’ve even packed them away in a box labeled “unrealistic”. Unpack them, blow the dust off, and take a close look. What is holding you back from pursuing your dreams? Connections? Money? Some agent to discover you in the grocery store and turn you into a star? Maybe you think you’re too old, or don’t have the education, or are in the wrong economic class.

Those, my friends are limiting beliefs. I have even heard them called, appropriately, B.S. Which stands for Belief System, or the other thing it stands for works well, too. When you believe your own B.S. you are the reason your dreams will never come true. You are Continue reading “Chasing Happiness”


If you were able to believe in Santa Claus for like 8 years, you can believe in your self for 5 minutes. -Unknown

“The belief you can do something is literally the difference between a life of mediocrity and a life of success.” That is paraphrased from Tom Bilyeu’s interview with Shawn Stevenson on The Model Health Show podcast (1). I highly recommend listening to the whole episode. It is pretty stinking inspiring. Tom Bilyeu talks quite a lot about belief and how it can impact your chances of success, how we find ways to make our beliefs true, and how we can change our reality by changing our beliefs. That got me thinking about the power of our beliefs. We’ve talked about this a bit in the context of limiting beliefs in the past (see Limiting Beliefs), but what about using the power of our beliefs for good? How can we make them work for us?

Continue reading “Believe”

Limiting Beliefs

Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t, you’re right. – Henry Ford

What beliefs do you have that are holding you back? Do you tell yourself that you shouldn’t want certain things because you don’t deserve them? Maybe you have a limiting fear. Think of a child on a diving board, too afraid to jump until she finally does. Only when she takes the risk does she realize that it’s fun. Maybe you think you can’t have something because of who you are or the situation you are in. Maybe you aren’t even aware of your limiting beliefs. I wasn’t. It turns out that I was limiting myself because I believed that I couldn’t run my own business. I thought this because I didn’t know how and probably wasn’t smart enough, so I wasn’t even going to try. Letting the excuse that you don’t know how to do something keep you from doing it is really silly, by-the-way. You can learn anything. It just takes quieting the negative voice in your head. Melissa Ambrosini calls that negative voice your inner “Mean Girl”, which I think is a very good description. Your mean girl holds you back, tells you that you are not worthy, Continue reading “Limiting Beliefs”

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