On introspection and choosing another path

In my other life, as a health coach helping people gain a healthier relationship with food while losing weight happily and healthfully, I have recently made a pretty major business decision. It is one of those shifts that is like jumping off of a cliff. It feels like there’s no going back. Like you’ve got to be all in–100% committed–or the scene will look like one from the coyote and roadrunner cartoon.

The thing is, I wasn’t getting anywhere with what I was doing. I was doing everything the marketing people told me to. I was authentic, passionate, and unique. I had an elevator speech. I regularly shared my story with soul-baring honesty. I walked my talk and am a product of the plan I was trying to sell. All I heard were crickets. Could it be that I wasn’t clear about what I was selling? Essentially I was selling myself on the internet. I mean, that’s pretty vague.

Authenticity is one of my core values, so my business plan reflects that. As a result, it is both rigid and fluid, and that might come off as wishy-washy. My compass is my internal barometer, which sometimes causes me to float in circles. I needed a solid plan, but first I had to figure out what was wrong with the other one. Continue reading “On introspection and choosing another path”

Five Tips You Can Use Today for Radiant Health

Every once in awhile there is a gem floating around in the deluge of junk email I get. My email service takes care of the worst of the junk, of course, but I still receive all of the newsletters that I signed up for because I wanted the free gift. I’m sure you know what I mean.

Don’t have any of these? You’re in luck! I have one to offer you.

I check my email by poising my mouse over the “delete” button and repeatedly clicking. I’m sure I’m not the only one. Occasionally there is a message that is spared the trash bin because of its potential for quality information or entertainment. Like mine, right?

A few weeks ago I received just such an email. A diamond in the rough. It was from Mind-Gut Connection guru Emeran Mayer, M.D. and held the subject line ” The ‘National Eating Disorder’ Epidemic and What You Can Do About It”. It contained a link to an article that I shared on my Facebook fan page @nourishmewellness last week. This article, by Mark Bittman and David L. Katz, summarized the most common questions people ask about healthy eating and provided practical, down to earth solutions that are doable by anyone. You can read it here. Continue reading “Five Tips You Can Use Today for Radiant Health”

Your Ego is Not Your Amigo

When was the last time you invited someone to point out your flaws? I mean, when have you showed someone your hard work and asked them to tear it apart? Honestly, without hoping they wouldn’t be too harsh. Maybe the bigger question is, why would you do such a thing?

Carol Dweck talks about Fixed Mindset versus Growth Mindset in several of her essays and her book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. Basically, those with a Fixed Mindset believe that innate ability or ingrown talent determines our success and that these features can’t be changed. A Growth Mindset, on the other hand, believes that our actions determine our success. So we can learn how to succeed. The Fixed Mindset judges situations. “I am such a terrible person,” “I am really bad at that,” or “This means I am better than her.” A Growth Mindset learns from a situation in order to constantly improve.

Remember my New Year’s intention about having a Child-like or Beginner’s Mind? Which mindset do you think that falls under? Continue reading “Your Ego is Not Your Amigo”

The Lost Art of Listening

“Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person, they are almost indistinguishable.” -David W. Augsburger

Is genuinely listening to other people a dead art? Most people have a conversation based on what they think the other person is going to say next. The time when the other person is talking is a chance for most people to come up with what they are going to say next. We want everyone to think we’re so smart and witty. The worst is when we are caught with nothing to say. So we’re constantly thinking about our side of the conversation. The person we’re talking to is doing the same thing. Which results in a disconnection from what is actually being said.

People listen to reply, not to understand. This happens so often that when someone really hears us and replies thoughtfully to what we just said, it is shocking. And refreshing. And heartwarming. Suddenly, this person who just took the time to listen to what we said is our favorite person. We feel loved and valued. We’re interesting! To have an actual conversation…this is a skill that is all too rare. It’s like love at first sight

What if we could solve all the bad in the world merely by listening to each other? What kind of a beautiful world would it be if everyone felt heard? How many tragedies have happened all around the world because people are frustrated about being ignored? Who can’t relate to being lonely, misunderstood, heartbroken, left out? This may not be the ultimate secret to bring about world peace, but it certainly can’t hurt. How can we practice being better listeners in our families, our work, and our life? Continue reading “The Lost Art of Listening”

How to Develop a Proclivity for Keeping Resolutions Using H.A.L.T.

Now that Christmas is over, we can settle down to reflect on the year that has past and make plans for the year to come. Call them resolutions or intentions, but making goals for the year is a way we can make improvements in our lives. In order to make effective resolutions for meaningful change, you need to see where you are now. What will you need to do to get from where you are to where you are going? For an excellent article about how to sit down and intentionally pour over your past year in order to get a clear perspective on where you are and where you want to go, read 9 Essential Questions Everyone Should Ask Themselves At The End of The Year.

Continue reading “How to Develop a Proclivity for Keeping Resolutions Using H.A.L.T.”

What is Wellness?

In a few weeks, it will be January. I know, crazy right? In January I will be launching a new website and a new business called Nourish Me Wellness. If you are getting my newsletter in your email you are already familiar with the name. Wait. You’re not on my email list? Well, sign up now right here. Then come back and read about what wellness means to me.

Nourish is defined by dictionary.com as, to provide with the food or other substances necessary for growth, health, and good condition (1). Wellness, according to UC Davis, is an active process of becoming aware of and making choices toward a healthy and fulfilling life (2). UC Davis goes on to say that “Wellness is more than being free from illness, it is a Continue reading “What is Wellness?”

Shoulding on the Holidays, Part 1: Guilt

Welcome to holiday season pregame. Otherwise known as the week of Halloween. I absolutely love this time of year. I love the festive feeling, the events, decorating the tree, Christmas music, buying gifts, wrapping gifts, turkey dinner…I could go on. I even like dealing with the Elf on the Shelf. Having a little girl in the house makes everything that much better. I do understand that not everyone likes this time of year, though. For many, the holiday season spells added stress and anxiety. I heard someone just the other day say that they were already dreading the long checkout lines and crowded parking lots. My mom has given up on most of the holiday traditions because “It’s a lot of work and what’s the point?” Many people experience a sharp let down when their high expectations of the holiday didn’t turn out exactly right. Others merely tolerate the season with a “meh”, or more appropriately a “humbug”, attitude. If this is supposed to be such a joyous season, why do so many people find it so miserable? How can you enjoy the season and hopefully inspire joy in others at the same time?

Continue reading “Shoulding on the Holidays, Part 1: Guilt”

Love Over Fear

Each and every decision we make throughout the day gives us an opportunity to choose love or fear. Take a minute to visualize each emotion. Imagine what it feels like to live with love. Bring that feeling in and let it live inside you for a moment. Breathe into it and notice how it feels. For me, this feels like snuggling into a big, puffy blanket. I imagine feeling comforted, insulated from negativity, soft, and willing to share the best version of myself. Now imagine what it feels like to live in fear. Let it permeate each cell and notice how it feels. I imagine a hard, sharp, immovable force, like a large sword, slicing through and shattering my peace. Suddenly fear is in control, and it is not comfortable. Which would you rather live with? We have the choice every minute of every day to live from a place of love or a place of fear. After visualizing both, which would you choose?

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Limiting Beliefs

Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t, you’re right. – Henry Ford

What beliefs do you have that are holding you back? Do you tell yourself that you shouldn’t want certain things because you don’t deserve them? Maybe you have a limiting fear. Think of a child on a diving board, too afraid to jump until she finally does. Only when she takes the risk does she realize that it’s fun. Maybe you think you can’t have something because of who you are or the situation you are in. Maybe you aren’t even aware of your limiting beliefs. I wasn’t. It turns out that I was limiting myself because I believed that I couldn’t run my own business. I thought this because I didn’t know how and probably wasn’t smart enough, so I wasn’t even going to try. Letting the excuse that you don’t know how to do something keep you from doing it is really silly, by-the-way. You can learn anything. It just takes quieting the negative voice in your head. Melissa Ambrosini calls that negative voice your inner “Mean Girl”, which I think is a very good description. Your mean girl holds you back, tells you that you are not worthy, Continue reading “Limiting Beliefs”

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