Purposely practice misfortune to free yourself from fear

Even if you don’t consider yourself a particularly fortunate person, you likely have more than you think you do. If you have the time and the means to read blogs today, you are a fortunate person. It is possible to get so comfortable in our good fortune that we lose sight of how fortunate we really are. We may not be wealthy, but we are comfortable with where we live, our cars, our laptops, our iPhones, indoor plumbing, electricity, and running water. We are so comfortable having all of these conveniences that we live in fear of losing them. What if these things weren’t available to us as readily as they are today?

What brings this subject to mind is my car, which is becoming a rather prolific source of blog fodder lately. It has had a vibration, been noisier than usual and a rather alarming clunking sound has gotten worse over the last week. It has gotten to the point that I was a little afraid to drive the thing. It had to go into the shop. I have no backup vehicle. I live on the outskirts of a small city where a vehicle is a necessity if I need to do any sort of regular daily errands. Luckily we live within walking distance of the school, but the city center and all of my kid’s activities are a 20-minute drive away. Writing all of this down illustrates how incredibly fortunate we are. Today, however, I will be practicing misfortune. Continue reading “Purposely practice misfortune to free yourself from fear”

Why I Hate the 4th of July

Don’t get me wrong, I feel patriotic and respectful towards my country. I am not a hater of America. I am a hater of the 4th of July.

Every year my neighborhood turns into a war zone. Despite the fact that we live within the city limits where fireworks are prohibited, people insist on shooting off the noisy, wildfire inducing, messy things. They do it with abandon, without regard to safety, and rarely clean up the resulting debris. Otherwise reasonable, fairly level-headed people turn into crazed pyromaniacs. It isn’t about patriotism, it’s about blowing shit up. Worse, it lasts for a solid week and a half.

Yes, I am a fun hater. Continue reading “Why I Hate the 4th of July”

I Love Myself Most When…I Am True To Myself

In case you missed yesterday’s blog, here’s an excerpt:

When do you love yourself the most? I asked this question to several women all around the world over the last week. I was interested to hear what situations or circumstances inspired them to love themselves. Sometimes I was met with silence, other times with baffled looks…The answers I received to my questions can be categorized into three main groups. These are: I love myself most when I look great, when I am successful, or when I receive love from others. Read more…

After the blog published, I received answers from another category, which is, “I love myself most when I stay true to myself.” This is a great answer, and I think many people will agree that sticking to our own path despite attractive offers to join someone else’s journey is a great way to cultivate love for ourselves. Let’s explore this idea. Continue reading “I Love Myself Most When…I Am True To Myself”

Chasing Happiness

We don’t grow when things are easy. We grow when we face challenges. – Unknown

What would it take for you to become wildly successful? Reach way down and find your most audacious dreams. Not the stuff you are supposed to want like money, cars, the big house. I mean your real dreams, the ones you maybe haven’t even mentioned to anyone because they seem too ambitious. Perhaps you’ve even packed them away in a box labeled “unrealistic”. Unpack them, blow the dust off, and take a close look. What is holding you back from pursuing your dreams? Connections? Money? Some agent to discover you in the grocery store and turn you into a star? Maybe you think you’re too old, or don’t have the education, or are in the wrong economic class.

Those, my friends are limiting beliefs. I have even heard them called, appropriately, B.S. Which stands for Belief System, or the other thing it stands for works well, too. When you believe your own B.S. you are the reason your dreams will never come true. You are Continue reading “Chasing Happiness”

Love Over Fear

Each and every decision we make throughout the day gives us an opportunity to choose love or fear. Take a minute to visualize each emotion. Imagine what it feels like to live with love. Bring that feeling in and let it live inside you for a moment. Breathe into it and notice how it feels. For me, this feels like snuggling into a big, puffy blanket. I imagine feeling comforted, insulated from negativity, soft, and willing to share the best version of myself. Now imagine what it feels like to live in fear. Let it permeate each cell and notice how it feels. I imagine a hard, sharp, immovable force, like a large sword, slicing through and shattering my peace. Suddenly fear is in control, and it is not comfortable. Which would you rather live with? We have the choice every minute of every day to live from a place of love or a place of fear. After visualizing both, which would you choose?

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Limiting Beliefs

Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t, you’re right. – Henry Ford

What beliefs do you have that are holding you back? Do you tell yourself that you shouldn’t want certain things because you don’t deserve them? Maybe you have a limiting fear. Think of a child on a diving board, too afraid to jump until she finally does. Only when she takes the risk does she realize that it’s fun. Maybe you think you can’t have something because of who you are or the situation you are in. Maybe you aren’t even aware of your limiting beliefs. I wasn’t. It turns out that I was limiting myself because I believed that I couldn’t run my own business. I thought this because I didn’t know how and probably wasn’t smart enough, so I wasn’t even going to try. Letting the excuse that you don’t know how to do something keep you from doing it is really silly, by-the-way. You can learn anything. It just takes quieting the negative voice in your head. Melissa Ambrosini calls that negative voice your inner “Mean Girl”, which I think is a very good description. Your mean girl holds you back, tells you that you are not worthy, Continue reading “Limiting Beliefs”

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